I usually start this conversation with some education on the definition of the word “identify“.
We talk about how you can identify with something outrageous without agreeing with it in its entirety or claiming to have experienced it exactly. I encourage them to bring in lyrics of three songs they strongly identify with. This eliminates the embarrassment of an extremely, what we used to call, EMO song, or the fear of scaring me with a song full of threats of killing someone and the F-word. I have found this to be a wonderful way for Clients to share their current struggle and it directly catalyzes the developmental task of identity formation.